It’s not a hot take that Instagram can be used as a dating app. However, there are ways to boost it to cultivate potential relationships. The thing about Instagram is it still feels like a fairly organic way to meet someone. At this time it does not have vulgar undertones. I will break it down for how the feminine-energy person can attract someone and how the masculine-energy person can pursue…..
Feminine Energy….
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Make sure your profile pic (avatar) looks great…..
This is how you are going to draw men in. Visually you need to look pretty and alluring. This is not the time to put a pic of your cat or a cartoon. You can still be private and attract a person with just one photograph.
The grid….
Try to not make your grid look like an OnlyFans. (Unless you are trying to start an OnlyFans or only want to receive requests to hook up). For me, my grid is my little art project, but it’s safer to have flattering pictures and some that show travel or personality.
Follow….
Is this the dropping the hanky technique? Maybe. Here is the safer option instead of a cold follow: I prefer following a guy in a band or art page who is local. It makes it seem more innocent, like I am just trying to connect to my community.
Watch a story….
This is taking it to the next step. You can watch a few stories. Do not heart or react or comment. You can just observe a few stories.
Wait for a DM or communication….
Now you wait to see if he has taken an interest. The first step is him sending a follow request. See if he watches your stories or likes any posts.
Masculine Energy….
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Go to the “people you may know” section….
These are women who could be mutual friends or are local. Pick someone who you think is attractive to you.
Send a follow request….
She might cut you off there. When she is taken or weirded out, then you are done.
Don’t send a rogue DM….
This to me is very thirsty. It comes off as “hey, baby girl, looking good.” It will give her the ick.
If she accepts the request….
Watch her stories and heart them. Keep doing this periodically.
Pick a story that resonates with you….
When there is a particular story that you found funny or can comment on, then this is when you do a reaction message.
Try to stay away from the fire emoji reaction….
Probably five other guys already did it. You want to be seen as classy and not an F-boy.
See how she responded to the reaction message…
You can gauge her excitement and welcoming nature. For example, her sharing a clip from a comedian you like. You could ask her about it or at the very least send a laughing face emoji reaction.
DM her…
DM her when all of the above has happened. Ask her out sooner than later.
Bottom Line….
When done right, Instagram can be a good tool to create a digital organic way to get a date. More people are on Instagram these days versus the dating apps. The popularity of the dating apps has swiftly decreased. This is a “new” way to put out feelers without a hard rejection in the wild. Make sure, both as a man and woman, to make your profile appealing to who you are trying to attract. Your instagram grid is your brand; make sure it appeals to your audience.
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