Why You Should Try To Be A “Fast Friend”

We have to admit that friendship norms versus relationship and dating are different. For one thing, friendships usually never result in a break-up or even a “break.” But I wanted to talk more about casual friendships. You meet someone out at a bar; you chat about boys over cocktails, exchanging numbers or social media. You swear you will both get brunch soon and then, poof, they leave you on read. With casual dating, you are justified in feeling duped when he dodges messages after you were intimate. With friends, you don’t quite get the justice you feel inside. Did they do anything wrong at the end of the day? I want to make the argument for the “fast friend” and why you should let loose and try it yourself. How can you treat your own friendships as more casual?….

How you treat your existing friends….

As you get into your 30s and beyond, your high school friends and college roommates have moved away. You finally made a connection with a co-worker and feel you need to hold onto them for dear life. You are ashamed that you only have a handful of friends now. My view is to stop putting so much emphasis on the number and frankly how long the connection lasts. This is thinking-in-scarcity. (You are likable and can make new friends.) Most people you do befriend will change or not last forever. As an example, when you meet another single girl at work then a month later she gets a boyfriend, you will no longer share the bond of being single.

Should you break up with your friend?….

There is conflicting advice about having a clean break from a friend or not. There are cases where a friend might have crossed a line in a dramatic way. It can be more of a case-to-case basis with something in an extreme. Most friendships are more fluid and ebb and flow. With social media, you might remain connected through that and keep up with each other. This is sort of why there might not be a reason to have a sit-down break-up. I had a friendship that I ended officially, but only because the pattern ended up being in an unbalanced dynamic that could not be changed.

Being friendly versus forming friendships….

Certain people you meet through classes or out in the bars can be just friendly interactions when you see them. It is perfectly ok to have casual connections. You might even have a total blast and bond for hours. It doesn’t mean that you need to take it to the next level. Allow yourself more interactions to be more breezy and fun.

Your friend-of-a -friend could lead to success….

Loose connections lead to job offers or lucrative introductions for networking. I have said that the second- and third-tier friends are the best at dating set-ups. They see you at your most social and have a larger net for introductions.

Your friendship might be unbalanced….

I had a friend I made and we would spend some quality time together. I would show up when their band was performing to show support. One evening, I overshared about hooking up with someone. Their reaction was saying, “we aren’t that close.” It was humiliating that I felt we were forming a strong friendship. In protest, I avoided them and distanced myself. It is possible that certain people appreciate that you go the extra mile, but a true trust and connection isn’t actually there.

Overextending for friends….

I hear all the time on podcasts discussing what a friend should do for a bachloratte party or when a friend gets married. Nine-tenths of the time, the bridesmaids get their wallets cleaned out from extravagant gifts and flights. In the micro-sense, friends can take advantage of kindness under the guise of being a good friend. It is important to really evaluate who is taking advantage or who is a true deep friend.

Life is long and life is short….

The life-is-short is a reminder to carpe diem when you are out having a great time. You might have the best night of your life with someone you never see or hear from again. That is ok and it shouldn’t be looked at as a failure. You have those memories and evidence that you are a good hang. In contrast, the life-is-long thing is for connections that ebb and flow. You could always reconnect with an old friend from high school in your 50s. You never know who is coming in and out of your life.

Bottom Line….

Casual dating is a normal thing in most people’s lives. There should be more casual friendships and a detachment of how certain friends are treated. The most common reason why people drift apart is because of physically moving away or going into a new chapter in their life. It is also a good idea to notice when you are overextending and acting closer than the connection actually is. Lastly, you need to stop being stuck in scarcity when it comes to friendships. Most people say they struggle with making new friends. You have to come from a place of abundance and believe you are fun and a good friend. Whoever chooses to stick around is meant to.

A True Sustainable Closet

My relationship with thrifting and consumerism has changed as of late. This is probably because I am in the planning stages of moving out of my place where I have lived for seven years. In the recent past, I have had a somewhat strict policy of “one in, one out.” But the reality is I would do a monthly closet clean out, then replace with a bag full of new thrift finds. To me that is sort of missing the point of trying to be sustainable and to use what is already there. How can you be a more mindful shopper, and what are some things to chew on when it comes to the fashion landscape in general?….

Shop your closet….

This is step one. Look at your closet and think outside the box of how to style the clothes. Try things on and make sure things are your true size. If items don’t fit consider a clothing swap with friends or go to your community and try to organize one. It’s fine to donate things, but not for the intent of replacing.

Are your clothes for fashion or function?….

I just found a chunky knit infinity scarf in the back of my closet. Any fashion person would say, “oh an infinity scarf that’s so cheugy!” However, it serves a function meaning you don’t have to constantly flip the scarf or have it accidentally dangle in a toilet. This is just an example, but you should be thinking is this accessory or clothing item practical versus is it out of style?

Learn how to style your clothes you currently own….

I know you have enough clothing. Maybe you need to tuck a shirt, throw on a belt, wear a long sleeve shirt under a summer dress, etc. I keep learning how to style my clothes from trial and error and also saving styling videos on Instagram.

Sell your good clothes that you can get a profit from….

You might have been gifted expensive fashion items that are not your taste. It’s a great idea to start a Posh-mark and sell these types of clothing.

Alter your clothes….

I have become obsessed with dying my clothing. Once you do it you will become addicted. It is a great way to make your clothing flatter your personal color palette ( winter, warm spring, summer etc.), or to just change up a boring shirt. I also crop my shirts and the bottoms of jeans that are too long on me. The best shirts or pants that look great cropped is denim. It creates a beautiful frayed look that I love. For those who know how to work a sewing machine tailor your own clothes. You can take it a step further for advanced sewers by designing your own outfits or even starting a side hustle. Or go to your local tailor. They can help make a cheap thrifted jacket or pants into a custom fit.

Don’t make shopping a routine….

This can get tricky with some people, since shopping can be social, and it’s just a fun activity to do with family members or friends. You naturally will be influenced by who you are with and how much they eat or spend . It’s importantly to communicate with your shopping buddy that you are doing a “no spend month” just to see how that goes. You will naturally find another way to be social and spend time together.

Stop obsessing about micro trends…

Look, no one is immune from trends. There will always be influence to what you decide to put on. However, there are extreme pendulum trends where you go from maximalism to bare minimalism. You need to recognize that being in the middle and within your own taste is where you need to remain. Always recognize when an extreme is happening and resist the urge to burn down your closet and start fresh. It’s what they want you to do.

The “classics” are a lie…

Instead of “buying the classics,” which is a sneaky way of getting you to buy an expensive item, go with what is flattering to you or just something that you love. The classics always change, even if at a slower rate. Wear what speaks to you on a personal level.

Bottom Line….

When people read an article about cleaning out a closet, they gasp and panic about all of their special items being thrown in the trash. That is not the case here. Instead the message is to actually wear your items that you already own. And alter clothing that you want to tweak. It will breathe a new life into a garment and make you wear it more. It is also important to educate yourself about how to style your clothes. Watch stylists on social media or to read styling books. You can also use mood boards on Pinterest to help shape your taste and how it could be worn. I promise you have enough clothes to style an outfit. Consider a clothing swap and sell your designer items with Posh-mark. Lastly, resist the loop of closet clean out to filling the gap with more thrifted clothes.

How To Not Drink Alcohol On NYE

New Years Eve is one of, if not the biggest drinking holiday. Coming off the tails of Christmas it is a way to toast to the year to come. However… what does that mean for anyone who is sober curious or a long time non – drinker? The good news is it is popular to participate in Dry January and try out not drinking for a select amount of time. How can you ring in the new year without a hangover on January 1st?….

First off, it might be impossible to get to the bar….

When you have plans to hit the town you will be faced with a mob of people screaming at the bartender for drinks. Even if you want a glass of sparkling wine you might not be able to.

Decide what your plan is….

The more you meander and are not solid about your plans then your friends or even strangers might lure you into the bar and offer drinks. It always best to obviously be safe, but also know what venue or bar you will be at.

Speaking of venue….

A lackluster bar watching a football game is too boring. You need to be dancing and having an amazing time. There is more temptation to get sloshed when there is nothing special happening.

Carry limited cash….

One way to at least limit drinking is to only carry a set amount of cash on you. When you have run out of money you are done.

Do a nice dinner instead of pre-gaming….

It’s classy to do a nice dinner either in your home or at a restaurant. It prevents you from being in a mindset of getting drunk with everyone around you

Most bars have fancy mocktails….

Compared to even five years ago bars have kept up with trends of people upstaining from alcohol. I recently went to a fancy cocktail bar that offered adaptogen fake liquor. It gave the specialness and care of a regular cocktail without the consequences.

Leave before the ball drops….

No need to stay out. I recommend doing the Spanish tradition of eating 12 grapes under a table at the stroke of midnight. I did this last new years when I decided to stay in. I consider 2024 one of my luckiest years, just saying.

Bottom Line….

Yes, you can still enjoy yourself on New Years Eve Sober. The main problem I have faced with drinking in the past is being around people who will peer pressure. Don’t get sucked into a plan that you don’t want. I give you permission to ignore the texts. All superstitions are to prevent bringing bad vibes into the new year. Be joyous, kiss, dance the night away.

A Naughty List For Lovers

With the film “Baby Girl” coming out on Christmas Day I wanted to talk about the juxtaposition of holidays movies catered to adults. Christmas, like most holidays, is centered around children and families. It seems more taboo to embrace sexuality and kink. As young children the feeling and excitement of Christmas comes mainly from receiving presents without the burden of returning the favor. As adults trying to capture the excitement and anticipation, one of the ways we can do this is through sex. How can you spice up your holiday season with a situationship or partner? Here are some suggestions….

Have a sexy Holiday movie night….

There are a lot of unofficial Christmas movies such as “Die Hard” or “Gremlins”. However, they do not create a sensual vibe. If that’s what you’re looking for, there are plenty of lists online to google, but a few stand outs are “Eyes Wide Shut” and “Reindeer Games”. My personal choice is the movie “Go” which takes place during the Christmas season.

Go out to dinner and order oysters and champagne….

It’s a cliche, but there are food items that are more luxe and sophisticated rather than cookies or fruit cake. Dress up and go to an upscale spot that has a Christmas decor atmosphere before Christmas.

Model lingerie….

Surprise your partner with a red lingerie set and a Santa hat. Keep it playful and fun. Bonus points for festive dirty talk and role play!

Light candles….

Set the mood for the season by eating by candle light or go to a bar or restaurant that has a fire place and dim lightning. If your home has a fire place then light the fire and turn on the Christmas tree.

Hang mistletoe in a doorway….

It’s a cute reminder to kiss whenever you enter a home or bedroom.

Sing, play music, or create a playlist….

Great for music lovers. I recommend a blue tooth karaoke mic and singing on your phone in Youtube. For true musicians you can play music on piano or guitar. Or you can use Spotify or Apple Music to create a personal Christmas playlist. (For example Ariana Grande’s “Santa Tell Me”). Go beyond carols and stick to original Christmas albums.

Tie each other up using Christmas lights….

Is it silly? yes. However it can be memorable and a great sexy photo shoot idea.

Bottom Line….

Spice it up this season with your situationship or committed partner. You can create new holiday traditions that center around you as a couple versus obligations to family. All the suggestions are not to be taken seriously and can be modified for your liking. It’s good to think outside the wrapped Christmas box. Above all, remember to have some fun and de stress!

Crowd Pleaser Holiday Gifts

There are people who are impossible to shop for. It can get frustrating because they have everything and when they have a desire to have something it will be purchased. This is the time to think outside the box and try to be sustainable if possible. I always like to give people a useful gift that can be used all year long. What are some gift ideas for anyone you aren’t super close to or a hard to shop for person?….

Think outside a physical gift….

This is my first instinct for this type of person. Most people will not take a random class or feel that a certain streaming service is a little too indulgent. For an older person a technology favor could really help them out. Such as organizing their desktop or to help block scammers on their computer and phone. Movie passes to an indie cinema, concert tickets, sports tickets etc are also an option.

Go personal…

Anyone who is artsy or has a fun hobby this is the time to shine. Anything handmade or designed by you adds a special touch. You can easily set up a red bubble or similar site and add your art. A cute tote bag or tee shirt with your design can be a great gift.

Plants….

A plant can be a great gift for most people. You can help breathe some air into a space with an easy to care for plant. Create a starter herb garden with small plants that can be used indoors next to a kitchen window. They also make indoor herb kits with lights. Another option is fun and artsy plant holders. You can paint a plain one, thrift, or find one at a holiday market.

The mixologist….

Set up your friend’s home bar. Get them started with some bitters, shaker, a simple cart etc. The entertainer loves to have a fancy decanters to show off to guests. For non drinkers help stock a coffee or tea bar.

Sheets and pillowcases….

Nice sheets only get softer with each wash. A silk pillowcase is very helpful for anyone who doesn’t want to wake up with bed head. It’s great to give everyday luxury that they can use all year. A cozy large throw blanket can be a good idea as well.

Food gifts….

Make gourmet bread or sweets for people. This is great for relatives you don’t know that well and you are mailing them items. There are companies that offer food packages as well. Keep food simple and double check dietary needs.

Cashmere scarf….

No one would dislike a quality scarf or hat. Keep the color neutral, black is probably the safest bet. A sweater might be too expensive for most, so something smaller (socks) might be better for your budget.

Gift cards…

With gift cards I try to go local. This could be to a local day spa, restaurant, or book store. It seems more thought out than an amazon gift card.

Art…

This is great for people who have blank walls and need an art curator. Go to the flea markets, thrift stores, or local art markets. If you know your friend or family member’s taste this can be great to help them decorate. Also you can go to Etsy or other sites for downloadable art then thrift a nice frame.

Bottom Line….

These are examples of crowd pleaser gifts. It is great to go personal whenever possible however, sometimes you need to give gifts to people you are not as close to such as a co -worker or family member. I enjoy a non physical gift or favor that could really help out someone. Try to shop small, second hand, and buy a gift card from a local business. It will help out the local economy and give money back to the community.

End Of The Year Pep Talk

Expectations can help with reaching goals in a weird way. During the pandemic a lot of creators became well known brands and used a trying time to their benefit. This election for many people has been a big let down, but I see it as more of a benefit to achieving personal goals. I give you permission to start that Etsy or to embark on any brave endeavor. During the thick of covid there was a shake up with energy and putting a fire under people’s butts. How can your anxious energy be channeled into achieving your dreams?….

What are your resources….

Most people who start businesses are smart to notice what is already available to them. You might be living in a particular city that does xyz. You have to think in the present moment what is available to you. Your city might be great for food pop ups and you are a master at tacos. Think about who you already know and what you can tap into.

You phone can do more thing than you think….

Any smart phone owner barely uses all the functions of their device. There are also apps that can be extremly helpful. I love the app “photo room” which can erase backgrounds for photos for selling items through Ebay or Poshmark. You don’t have to have an elborate studio space to take photos. I shoot pretty much everything with my i phone and use the basic setting to make things look professional.

Network….

Connect with groups and meet ups to expand your network. Having those contacts can introduce you to the right people or find a potenical business partner.

Learn more hard and soft skills….

There are affordable courses you can take to give you more skills for your LinkedIN profile. It can give you a sense of credibility to just yourself to take the next step. I like sites like Udemy to test out your interest level. You don’t have to fork over an enormous amount of money to see if a certain goal is a fit for you.

Just because everyone has done it doesn’t mean there isn’t room for you….

Most will hear push back from family or friends that the market is too saturated for you to enter. You can always use the data to know what is working for a certain industry and recognize your unique take on it.

Listen to motivating podcasts….

It takes motivation and a touch of delulu to start something. It is great to hear success stories and hear tips on how they accomplished it.

Take baby steps…

The thought of jumping from a 9-5 job to a thriving businesses is daunting. You are allowed to take tiny leaps and not sell all your things and move to Europe. When creating a to do list achievable micro steps that you can check off.

Bottom Line….

Whatever you perceive as “bad news” can motivate you to change your personal way of life. The most important thing when starting anything is to tap into what lights you up and what resources are available to you. Let your gut lead the way to help guide what is the best fit for you

How To Get Back Into Music

I took a few years off from listening to music. Not in a dramatic way, but more just a lack of pursuing new music actively. I dove into podcasts as I did chores, and opted to be silent to think as I drove around doing errands. However, a few upgrades and a 3 month free trail from Apple helped move the needle towards opening myself to music again. As teens most can not fathom a world without music constantly. I knew I was getting older when I could drive in silence and “didn’t need to be distracted”. What are some steps to get more into the know of the music world?….

What is your technology?….

I still use CDs for my car. ( I am a weirdo, but that is ok). However, it’s totally fine to update old equipment to make your life easier. It can start with the right bluetooth wire to connect to your phone.

What music streaming service to use?….

I am an Apple music person mainly because you can share playlists with people. I am sure Spotify offers something similar. It makes music fun when it is shared. Although I was a loyal Pandora user and that was a way to discover new music. It really is up to you as long as you are getting an ad free version.

Go to indie record stores…

No record player required. You can still look and feel judged by the cashier (kidding… kinda). It can help you notice what you are drawn to. Soundtracks from movies are great for people who only love the hits.

Read a few music blogs….

No harm in seeing what the hot album is. You should take the opinions with a grain of salt, but it could expose you to bands you might have never come across on your own.

Buy the right headphones…

I recently was gifted apple air pods. I do like them a lot and it is great to have a hands free experience while I am walking, on a plane, or doing the dishes. Some people love a large headphone that rests on the ear and that is totally fine too.

Don’t let a music snob bully you….

This is important. There will be music people who will try their best to make you feel inferior. You are allowed to be completely basic with your music choices. I love hit songs and only really respond to music that simply just speak to me. You don’t have to defend your music taste to anyone.

Dance the night away….

See live music and DJ sets. Take note of the music that made you want to move your body.

Don’t get overwhelmed….

Try to not seek out too many music recommendations. Go with your gut and what you are drawn to in the moment. Don’t treat listening to music as a chore or a favor.

Bottom Line….

We now have more access to music than ever before. It is a great thing to expand your taste or get back into the old favorites. Upgrade your technology and how you listen to music. This can even mean going back in time and switching to vinyl. You want a great streaming service that suits your lifestyle. It’s ok to have your own options on what brings you joy. Do not let music snobs squash your desire to seek out music for yourself.

The Liking Complex Part 2: The Law of Detachment

So you have a new crush whom you know nothing about. He has enough mystery and allure that you put him straight on a pedestal. This can happen the most when you think this guy is perceived as out of your league. Your limerence will take over your thoughts and if you aren’t careful, your actions. How can you prevent yourself from repelling him energetically?

The power of detachment….

With any goal, career, or love you can’t have a choke hold on it. The more you want something and cannot see an option without it, the more it will slip through your fingers. Listen, there is no harm in having a secret crush. It motivates you to go out, wear the best outfit, and master the perfect makeup look. The only problem is when it turns into an obsession and you are plotting and scheming.

You have to trust….

When you are feeling obsessive you need to live in a reality when it doesn’t work out. Get back on the apps and on some dates to balance out the intensity.

Your mantra….

“it’s either this or something better.” That can diffuse the situation and not make him out to be the only man on earth. Maybe he isn’t a good fit and the universe is protecting you from him.

Play it cool…

When you tell your friends you have a little crush their first instinct is for you to take action. They will encourage you to add him on social media or go up to him and ask for his number. All of this if you are in the feminine energy is the worst move you can do. You are leaving it all up to him and now he knows you like him. It will put all the power in his hands and you are showing all your cards.

What can you do to loosen the grip?….

If it’s out of control, then switch up your routine and make other plans. If you are in a class with him, then sit further away. Especially when he has not spoken to you. In the case where he knows who you are and has spoken to you, then be polite and friendly and match his energy.

Do not orbit him on social media….

Did I say that already? You might think it’s all a part of the long game. It is a terrible habit to get into since you will now know where he is and who he is with. You will assume his sister is his new girlfriend and spend the weekend spiraling. Save yourself the headache.

Manifesting is nothing without detachment….

You might think manifesting is going after what you want. Think of it more as planting a seed, watering it, then trusting the universe will let it grow. Your part in manifesting isn’t every step. You have to trust that if he noticed you and is interested, he will take the steps to court you.

Bottom Line….

When you love someone set them free. You can’t be possessive or have a tight grip on someone without repelling it from you. Leave the room for him to come towards you. Not to say you should ignore him or be mean. Match his energy if he has decided to chat with you. It can be easy to take things too far when social media is involved. Too tempting to know his whereabouts and to plan your schedule around him. You new mantra is “it’s either this or something better.” You need to trust that if it’s meant for you, it would work out. The only action you need to put forward is being present and responding. Allow the courting process to happen if it’s meant to be.

The Gatekeeper: The Guy To Avoid….

Certain dates or chatting-through-the-apps might be met with men who are snarky and burned out. There are a few types of men to swipe left on, but one of the worst is what I call “The Gatekeeper.” This is the type of man that will hound a woman about her band shirt and demand she know every song and the order of the albums. How can you spot this type of guy and how can you avoid him?….

Negging….

Any sort of negging, aka making you feel stupid for an interest, or questioning your taste, is a clear sign. He might judge your appearance or question your taste in music or movies.

The niche thing only he can like….

You might be a fan of indie obscure music or movies. He will not believe it. You have to defend that you actually like a certain piece of media. This can also happen with forcing you to watch a certain movie or TV show to see if you “get it” or not. He loves to plant little traps and tests whenever possible.

He thinks of himself as unique and special….

He might think he is unique and a special snowflake. We all are being fed the same algorithm and are subject to what is happening in pop news and culture.

Liking a mainstream thing disgusts him….

You might like a pumpkin spice while watching “Sex and the City.” This to him makes you seem basic and he can’t stand when something is universally loved. When you bring up a band or movie that is popular he cannot fathom that you would know about any indie music or an independent film.

An older man’s game….

I find the type of man who most embodies this behavior is a man in his 40s. He is bitter and jaded and enjoys testing and grilling his dates for sport.

He doesn’t believe women can be cool….

He has very black-and-white views on gender. He is old-fashioned about “boy interests and girl interests.” He views women as more of an accessory rather than an equal partner.

How to avoid this guy….

You can probably spot him in a dating app profile being negative in the prompts or bio. He is snarky and loves “sarcasm.” In the real world, he can be spotted at the local dive bar or is himself a bartender while he moonlights being a DJ, musician, comedian, or indie film maker.

Bottom Line…

In his younger years maybe he was the bad boy and the women swooned. Now he is in his 40s and is jaded and annoyed about how much women have changed. Women are expecting more from men and most are opting out of relationships unless it’s a great fit. This angers these types of men and they take out their rage though passive aggressive messages and negging. I consider this type of man as the male “pick me.” He is focused on how “different” and “unique” he is. In reality, he is a dime a dozen and doesn’t realize that we are all the same. He loves to test and make you feel you are not smart or cool. Mostly, he has limited thoughts about gender and that women can be funny or talented.

Fall Thrift List

My favorite season for fashion is fall, which is no surprise since I am obsessed with jackets. For any thrifter it is always a good idea to have a running list to manifest. I am going to break down a few trends for items that should be timeless and not something to discard after a few months. What are some things to add to your thrift wish list?….

Leopard….

Keep the leopard pattern classic without an abstract interpretation. Try your best to keep the pattern in the most classic look. For those who are scared to wear such a bold pattern it is fine to get it in a belt, purse, or shoe.

Wine red, ox blood, Burgundy, cherry red….

It’s called many things, but either way it is a pretty color. A throwback to a 90s look. I remember lipstick and patent leather boots being this color. The best part is that it is a forgiving color that goes with many shades and can even look great with black and brown neutrals.

Studs….

Going with an edgy look I see not a sharp punky stud but more so a rounded or hole stud. I think this looks great as a belt or bag or even shoes.

Green….

a hot color for the fall. Personally, I love a hunter or olive green. I think that military style always looks very polished. Honestly, I love picking up camo fashion pattern pieces. I would stay away from actual uniforms, but fashion camo is very flattering and can look great on most skin tones.

Pointy boots or square toe….

You are safer overall sticking with a pointy toe. I feel it sticks around in what’s trending and it is more of a classic look. Certain rounded toes can look more dated although a classic combat boot is technically a rounded toe. The square toe might not be as hot for long and might just be popular for a short period. However if you come across a real vintage leather one, I would snag it.

Western Trend….

Speaking of pointy toe, a western boot can pull a simple look together. I feel you should find one in black just so you could get more use out of them. For me, personally, I get scared about wearing this style of boot or any boot that isn’t grippy at the bottom. I fear I will fall on my face if there is water on the floor. You can always go and purchase bottoms for your boots or go to a shoe repair spot for them to do it for you. Safety first; you don’t want to slip. But dovetailing into the Western trend in general I am still on the lookout for fringe. I think it can look very cute as a maxi-skirt, bag, jacket, or even a belt.

Whimsy Goth….

The 90s fairy celestial trend is back and I am here for it. I love a sun and moon face print. It is sort of a hippy dreamy look that can be fun to style.

Bottom Line….

The 90s are back in a big way. It all depends on your own aesthetic and taste level. Some people might want to lean hard into Western and some into a more edgy grunge look. It comes down to what you love wearing and shopping for. In my notes app I like to have a running list of items I hope to run into. But before you shop, go through your closet and get good at styling clothing first. It is more important to get creative and get inspiration from just putting a look together at zero cost.