Category: music

A Naughty List For Lovers

With the film “Baby Girl” coming out on Christmas Day I wanted to talk about the juxtaposition of holidays movies catered to adults. Christmas, like most holidays, is centered around children and families. It seems more taboo to embrace sexuality and kink. As young children the feeling and excitement of Christmas comes mainly from receiving presents without the burden of returning the favor. As adults trying to capture the excitement and anticipation, one of the ways we can do this is through sex. How can you spice up your holiday season with a situationship or partner? Here are some suggestions….

Have a sexy Holiday movie night….

There are a lot of unofficial Christmas movies such as “Die Hard” or “Gremlins”. However, they do not create a sensual vibe. If that’s what you’re looking for, there are plenty of lists online to google, but a few stand outs are “Eyes Wide Shut” and “Reindeer Games”. My personal choice is the movie “Go” which takes place during the Christmas season.

Go out to dinner and order oysters and champagne….

It’s a cliche, but there are food items that are more luxe and sophisticated rather than cookies or fruit cake. Dress up and go to an upscale spot that has a Christmas decor atmosphere before Christmas.

Model lingerie….

Surprise your partner with a red lingerie set and a Santa hat. Keep it playful and fun. Bonus points for festive dirty talk and role play!

Light candles….

Set the mood for the season by eating by candle light or go to a bar or restaurant that has a fire place and dim lightning. If your home has a fire place then light the fire and turn on the Christmas tree.

Hang mistletoe in a doorway….

It’s a cute reminder to kiss whenever you enter a home or bedroom.

Sing, play music, or create a playlist….

Great for music lovers. I recommend a blue tooth karaoke mic and singing on your phone in Youtube. For true musicians you can play music on piano or guitar. Or you can use Spotify or Apple Music to create a personal Christmas playlist. (For example Ariana Grande’s “Santa Tell Me”). Go beyond carols and stick to original Christmas albums.

Tie each other up using Christmas lights….

Is it silly? yes. However it can be memorable and a great sexy photo shoot idea.

Bottom Line….

Spice it up this season with your situationship or committed partner. You can create new holiday traditions that center around you as a couple versus obligations to family. All the suggestions are not to be taken seriously and can be modified for your liking. It’s good to think outside the wrapped Christmas box. Above all, remember to have some fun and de stress!

How To Get Back Into Music

I took a few years off from listening to music. Not in a dramatic way, but more just a lack of pursuing new music actively. I dove into podcasts as I did chores, and opted to be silent to think as I drove around doing errands. However, a few upgrades and a 3 month free trail from Apple helped move the needle towards opening myself to music again. As teens most can not fathom a world without music constantly. I knew I was getting older when I could drive in silence and “didn’t need to be distracted”. What are some steps to get more into the know of the music world?….

What is your technology?….

I still use CDs for my car. ( I am a weirdo, but that is ok). However, it’s totally fine to update old equipment to make your life easier. It can start with the right bluetooth wire to connect to your phone.

What music streaming service to use?….

I am an Apple music person mainly because you can share playlists with people. I am sure Spotify offers something similar. It makes music fun when it is shared. Although I was a loyal Pandora user and that was a way to discover new music. It really is up to you as long as you are getting an ad free version.

Go to indie record stores…

No record player required. You can still look and feel judged by the cashier (kidding… kinda). It can help you notice what you are drawn to. Soundtracks from movies are great for people who only love the hits.

Read a few music blogs….

No harm in seeing what the hot album is. You should take the opinions with a grain of salt, but it could expose you to bands you might have never come across on your own.

Buy the right headphones…

I recently was gifted apple air pods. I do like them a lot and it is great to have a hands free experience while I am walking, on a plane, or doing the dishes. Some people love a large headphone that rests on the ear and that is totally fine too.

Don’t let a music snob bully you….

This is important. There will be music people who will try their best to make you feel inferior. You are allowed to be completely basic with your music choices. I love hit songs and only really respond to music that simply just speak to me. You don’t have to defend your music taste to anyone.

Dance the night away….

See live music and DJ sets. Take note of the music that made you want to move your body.

Don’t get overwhelmed….

Try to not seek out too many music recommendations. Go with your gut and what you are drawn to in the moment. Don’t treat listening to music as a chore or a favor.

Bottom Line….

We now have more access to music than ever before. It is a great thing to expand your taste or get back into the old favorites. Upgrade your technology and how you listen to music. This can even mean going back in time and switching to vinyl. You want a great streaming service that suits your lifestyle. It’s ok to have your own options on what brings you joy. Do not let music snobs squash your desire to seek out music for yourself.