Most haters and trolls are coming from a jealous place. Some will dedicate reddit pages and be up late nights updating a hate club. All this energy, if channeled in the right direction, could have been used for a new career or lifestyle. The feeling of envy can be used to take a temperature of our true desires. For anyone who is lost or stuck in a soul-sucking job, how can you use envy for good?….

Get inspired not jealous….

If they can do it, so can you. Even just attempting and working towards your desires will make you happier. Be surrounded by friends who are accomplishing big dreams.

Would you trade lives with this person?….

Maybe a tiny piece of their life is fantastic. As a whole, maybe they aren’t close to their family or have severe anxiety. You are only seeing a positive sliver.

Fill up your cup first….

Most jealous and resentful people are doing way too much for other people. 9/10 of the time, the other person did not even ask for help or advice. It is easier to focus and fix a friend’s or boyfriend’s life and completely ignore your own.

Your desires are smothered….

Get back in touch with your intuition. This is a good starting place when you are too focused on what other people are doing. Pay attention to yourself.

Write down when you get jealous….

Scrolling though Instagram or when a friend tells you good news, what exactly made you envious? Get really granular about why you felt a pang of hate. There is a pattern that you are not paying attention to.

Start small….

Any career can first be a hobby or side-hustle. You don’t have to jump back into getting a PhD or anything drastic. You might discover it was only that he or she received a lot of attention and maybe you are lacking friendship or a social circle.

Bottom Line….

When harnessed correctly you can use envy to highlight your true passions. Just make sure it is not just for attention. There are many ways to get praise and admiration. Ask yourself why you need validation. When you are in alignment with your life, you pay less attention to what others are doing. A confident person would never start a hate club or troll on Instagram. Stop fixing other people’s lives and focus on you and your needs.