Last year, I went on pretty much every date that I was invited to. I just wanted to get my feet wet and master the perfect first date. I was mainly collecting data on what works and what doesn’t. I have found the most important part of the date is the “pre-date.” The pre-date rituals are very important in how smoothly the actual date will go. It’s a good idea to be in a right frame of mind. Your energy and vibe are probably the most important thing for a first date; when you are in a good mood, it shows. It also opens you up for a good conversation and connection. If you are feeling rushed and frazzled, it will be a wasted opportunity…..
What is the routine?….
- Make sure you are shower fresh – A nice perfume is the cherry-on-top.
- If you need to wash your hair, give it plenty of time to style – Men usually like hair to be down. If it’s a 100 degrees outside, I just don’t care and have to style my hair up, but I try to make it look intentional by wearing large earrings.
- Give yourself plenty of time to apply makeup – Try to go more glam. I know it can be scary for you if you lean more toward natural. Go bold, wear a lipstick. This is the time to do it.
- It may take a few times to get an outfit to work – You might not get it right on the first try. My favorite type of outfit is something casual with a fancy edge. I don’t recommend a tight, short dress with 5-inch heels. Although speaking of shoes, a nice feminine boot or maybe something with a block heel works well. Always be prepared to walk, you never know if a spontaneous romantic stroll will happen.
Get into the right mood….
Being in the right mood is everything. You have to get into the zone. First impressions will make or break a date, and it will show if you are annoyed or in a sour mood. Before you leave the house or even when parked in your car, listen to a meditation on your phone, call a super-positive friend, watch a funny YouTube video, etc.
Why a “pre-date” is a good idea….
Once you are dressed and ready, give yourself a 45-minute grace period to get to a bar or coffee shop near your date location. Use this time to settle in, get a drink, and answer any texts or emails. During the date, your phone should remain in your purse on silent.
Be a little late…
During this grace period, it’s a good idea to go to the bathroom, reapply perfume, and freshen your breath. Then wait on the text from your date saying he is there. It’s a good idea to be a few minutes late, which is why it’s best to be nearby and walk over to the date location. It shows you are busy and makes you look less eager. At this point, you should be relaxed and ready for the date.
It’s normal to feel nervous before a date. I used to have legit panic attacks in the car on the way there. Having a routine really helps you feel in control of the situation and gives yourself time to get into the right frame of mind. The getting-ready process at home is a part of the date; sometimes it’s the best part! Have fun, listen to music, laugh. Another way to get centered before a date is to meditate and do yoga. It can really help balance out nervous energy.