Burn Out

In the fast-App world, dating burnout used to happen all the time to me. I would go out with a new guy once a week and still be matching on Tinder daily. The standard advice was to take a breather and limit the dates you went on. I realize that even though I am not going on actual dates because of the pandemic, the flood gates have opened for matching on Tinder. I do stand by the opinion that you should be changing your settings and be more open to chatting with men you would have normally swiped left on. However, it does get overwhelming to receive a new message every 20 minutes from a new guy.

Most guys are starved for physical attention…

We all are, but it’s at a whole different level for these guys. The conversations would always start innocently then move to, “what’s your favorite position?” After too many of these I started to snap.

So what can we do instead?…

After having a period of matching with a ton of guys and really changing things up, you need to limit yourself. I think to prevent burnout and throwing your phone in the woods you need to pace yourself. Log out of the apps during the day, give yourself maybe two hours in the evening to message, then log out again.

Only let the guys you actually like have your phone number or Snapchat….

Most guys will immediately want your snapchat to see pics of your boobs. Don’t give that info to that type of guy. His motives will be known immediately. Some men do use the sneak attack method and ask about your family, then boom! Start asking you sexual questions. Try to hold off on giving the contact info until you have built a trust.

Most men will claim you are boring or wasting their time…

“Why are you on Tinder anyway?” Yea… these guys suck so much. Tinder isn’t “Girls Gone Wild” and it’s not written in the terms of agreement that you have to send nudes.

If you need to take a full break then do it…

I wouldn’t go so far as deleting the apps, but you totally can. I think it’s totally fine to at least be logged out for a few days.

Limit yourself to one app at a time….

To prevent being completely overwhelmed, just stick to one App. I advise using Hinge instead of Tinder since there are less thirsty men.

Bottom Line…

It may seem silly to put a limit on messaging people back, but it does take a lot out of you. We are already talking to friends we have not spoken to in years and trying to keep up with family. Mainly, it’s about respectful communication. To most guys the coronavirus is a permanent spring break and they feel entitled to nudes. Protect your energy, especially mental energy.